Maria Bello has come out in an article published by the New York Times. The actress wrote a piece for the newspaper on Friday and revealed the moment she told her 12-year-old son, Jackson, that she was gay.

She wrote: "I was with someone romantically and I hadn't told him. I had become involved with a woman who was my best friend, and, as it happens, a person who is like a godmother to my son."

Bello decided to admit that she was dating Clare Munn, the CEO of a social impact media company, after she weighed how her relationship with a woman would affect her family and perhaps her career.

She explained, "He (Jackson) looked at me for what seemed like an eternity and then broke into a huge, warm smile. 'Mom, love is love, whatever you are,' he said with wisdom beyond his years. (Yes, he obviously attends one of those progressive schools in Los Angeles!)

"I loved him so much for saying that. 'But Jack, I'm a little scared,' I said. 'When I was younger, people judged you if you were in a romantic relationship with a person of the same sex, and some still do. So I’m not sure how to deal with this. But we'll figure it out together."

Bello also praised her partner, revealing Munn stood by her this past summer when she was very sick.

Bello added, "Clare rarely left my side and called every doctor and connection she knew to help figure out what was wrong with me... My feelings for Clare aren't the same as the butterflies-in-the-stomach, angst-ridden love I have felt before; they are much deeper than that.

"So I would like to consider myself a 'whatever', as Jackson said. Whomever I love, however I love them, whether they sleep in my bed or not, or whether I do homework with them or share a child with them, 'love is love'. And I love our modern family. Maybe, in the end, a modern family is just a more honest family."

Bello divorced screenwriter Dan McDermott in 2006.